To The Mom Of The Child That My Kid Bit

I’m sorry. I know that isn’t enough. It wouldn’t be for me either so I don’t blame you. I hate that I feel instantly defensive but hear me out though. I promise I’m not a bad parent. I love my kiddos, they are well taken care of, appropriately disciplined, well mannered. But they are different. They require different. Their brains are wired differently. Yours would be too if it had the history their’s does. Physical, mental and emotional trauma has left my child struggling. Struggling to self regulate, struggling to manage his emotions, struggling to cope with the world around him.

We are doing everything we can to help him. But sometimes that’s not enough. I promise we keep trying day after day even when it feels impossible. But I need you to know that my heart breaks for the path of destruction my child leaves in his wake of deficits. It doesn’t go unnoticed, I assure you. Quite the opposite actually. It keeps me up at night. All I can say is I’m sorry my child hurt yours. Know that it’s because my child is hurting. So please be patient. We ask for grace as we are continually learning how to parent our children with trauma.

Signed,
An emotionally exhausted invested foster mom